'Mellow Out' They Say. If
I Only Could.
Intensities and Sensitivities of the Young
M. Piechowski, Ph.D.
Foreword by Nicholas Colangelo,
Royal Fireworks Press, 2014
Responses to “Mellow Out,” They Say. If I Only Could.
Thank you for writing this superb book. It was both a comfort and
joy for my soul. Thank you also for your love of gifted
people. It permeates every page of the book.
I believe people are going to have remarkable emotional experiences
reading your book. Every once in a while you hint at other realities,
which is tantalizing.
You don’t make a big thing of this, but scattered throughout are
statements and musings that speak of this to “one who has the eye
to see.” This occurs especially in sensual aliveness
(experiencing pleasure “with some sort of sixth sense”) and
imaginal experience sections raising the question that imaginary
friends might not be wholly imaginary, Daskalos’ healing methods,
etc. These pave the way, like small introductory musical variations of
a major theme, for the powerful Part Five, which makes the book so much
more than just a delightful exposition of overexcitabilities.
The implicit question of what to do with all this intensity and
sensitivity is answered in Part Five through giving many examples of
advanced sensibilities and perceptions and then, with all
practicality, providing a sampler of helpful exercises for growth. The
exercises come alive because you have studded them with real
individuals’ real experiences that are compelling and too
singular not to be true.
This is a masterful book, apparently charming and innocent, but packing a huge punch of higher reality.
I could not wait to begin your book and in fact, savored the first
course on the plane home. Although I promised myself I would read it to
punctuate/celebrate the end of the school year (next week)—I
could not wait. I am especially pleased that you wrote it for the young adults &
parents who live this reality. I am ordering a few copies for my parent
library at school. I hope to have it as “required” reading
for my staff as well. There is one high school student … who
will benefit it immensely from the knowledge in this book. Just knowing
there are others like him and someone other than me confirms this will
be such a gift.
Thank you for all you do—and for getting it down on paper—for others.
I just received your book on Tuesday and am already half way through
it. Reading it brings back fond memories of you. It is
truly truly amazing and I can't wait to finish it. Everything in it is
so interesting and answers a lot of questions I have about various
frustrations I have with my personality sometimes. It really came at
just the right time.
Lydia Bremmer, age 17
I just finished your book and I want to personally thank you for all
your insights, your stories, and the work you have done with young
people. As I read your words, I could hear your gentle, quiet
voice and it made me smile deeply.
Thank you for your commitment to gifted kids, and to their
emotional nature and spiritualness.
About your book . . . I absolutely love it, including the title!
I opened the package and couldn't put it down. I taught a staff
development class for 23 teachers last week. I promoted your book
and passed it around for everyone to see.
I started your book on the plane and am somewhere in the imagination
section. Somehow you present your ideas in a way that shuts off
my "well that's one way of looking at it" response. It's a smart book
that speaks to people in a way that draws them in and tells them things
they've never heard before.
I can’t wait to delve into it, although I perused it as soon as
it arrived. I can open any page and find something truly
engaging—something that relates to my students, my family, my
Thank you for persisting to publication. It’s a real gift to all of us.
I just reread the first 3 chapters of your book and I love it so
much. I love the sharing of your life experience in flushing out
the meaning of whatever concept you are proposing. It shows your depth
so beautifully. And then I glanced at the other chapters, some of
the many highlighted sections and again, I absolutely cherish this
profound collection of emotional experience. It is such a huge
gift to our field.
I can scarcely put it down. What a wonderful job you have done of
synthesizing themes, representing the deepest concerns of gifted young
people and communicating issues with such insight and grace. Your
writing is elegant and your observations are illuminating.
You really do capture how difficult it is to be sensitive and aware in
a world that too often expects indifference or quick adjustment to
circumstances that are patently unfair, cruel, and painful. And the
intensities don’t become less when one ages.
The index is admirable—having compiled many an index I know what
an onerous task that is and how all consuming to track key words,
pages, and meaning.
D. G. F. Fraser
Dr. J, tells me he lent the book to a teenager who, hmm now how did he
put it?—read it intensely. This is the reason for the
condition it is in. :) I haven't finished your book yet.
I'm on chapter 14. Within the first 10 pages I had sent the
following to Dr. J.:
"The man is saying things I've been thinking and trying to express for
years. So much of what I've been trying to articulate and
explain. He backs me up. I'm only on page 10. Already
he's talked about the how spirituality and nature are part of who we
are. He's referred to the emotional poverty in the United States
and the deficiencies of our society. He explains what I believe
listening is all about. He speaks to others being a mirror for us
and the importance of TLC. All things I believe and am passionate
about. And this is only up to page 10."
So I am impressed and I've found more gems as I've gone along. The reading is easy.